When I talk to people about goals, there is common element that can negatively affect what they want to accomplish. Sometimes, we are focused on past experiences, and we allow them to affect our future goals.
I think talking about this can help you learn about yourself and help you achieve your goals. It will also help you move past previous experiences and focus on the present and future. You’ll gain some bliss as you continue to work toward your goals and create your happiest, healthiest self.
First, why do we look to the past and ask ourselves “What if I did this instead? Or, “Would I be happier if I didn’t do that?” I used to be the queen of regret and I contemplated my past regularly. We wonder what would happen if we chose a different company to work for or college to attend. In some cases, we don’t feel regret, but we question our previous choices. It’s important not to regret our decisions or allow our past to affect what lies ahead. This can affect your potential goals and happiness.
How do we overlook this problem and live a happy, healthy, regret-free life. In some cases, it’s not that simple because it’s dependent on your situation. However, there are a few universal ways you can solve any regret or contemplation you have about your past.
Reflect with logic:
At the time of whatever decision you made, you had specific reasons and intentions behind your decision. Over time, you grow and your values, intentions and reasoning will change. But, that doesn’t mean you should regret your past decisions. You should allow your past to help you grow in the future.
If you made a mistake or a decision you aren’t happy about, forgive yourself. Don’t allow your past decision crush your strength in the present. Remember, it’s important to love yourself and grow from past experiences. Forgiving yourself will allow you to accomplish your goals without remorse of the past.
Learning and growing from past experiences shouldn’t give you a negative representation of what it to come for your future. Once you reflect and forgive yourself, it’s important to move on. Don’t allow those experiences to affect what you have in store for your future.
We all have those “what if” moments, or experiences where we wish we could go back and change, but your past should not affect your present and future. If you find that you’re being held back from your goals because of your past, try these tips. And remember, your past does not determine your future.