This is the last post in my weekly series “Make March Your Month.” If you haven’t viewed my previous posts in the series, here they are in order:
Post 1: Introduction and Achieving Your Goals
Post 2: Choosing Positivity
Post 3: Forget the Past & Focus on the Future
For my final post, I wanted to talk about something we all need to work on in our lives. We are told that compassion is important because everyone is struggling through something difficult in their lives whether it’s a death, questioning their career, breakup, etc. Life can be hard sometimes and it’s okay to recognize how difficult it is.
However, we don’t always give ourselves the love and compassion we deserve. A quote we all should live by is, “If your compassion does not include yourself it is incomplete.” We are fueled by stereotypes and perceptions of beauty and lifestyles that we pressure ourselves to be the best. There’s nothing wrong with achieving goals and striving to become our happiest, healthiest self. But, there are problems with giving into unnecessary standards of beauty and happiness.
We are subjected to this constantly. Photoshopped images of celebrities, or standards that women should meet in life in general like get married by the time you’re 25, have two children by 30, have a booming career before you;re 30, etc. All of this pressure inflicts negativity and we feel inferior if we don’t meet these standards. Here are tips on how to ignore the hate and focus on love:
You don’t need to feel pressured to accomplish anything other than your personal goals. Don’t focus on what other people are doing. Focus on your wants and needs. You’ll find that doing this will allow you to feel naturally happy and healthy.
Stop self hate:
You’re not fat, ugly, stupid or any other negative adjective. You are human and you make mistakes and you are perfectly imperfect. If you don’t reach your goal weight or have six-figure job, it’s okay. You cannot stress and hate yourself for it. Remember to always love yourself.
This is similar to the “do you” tip. But, don’t think you’re a failure just because you are in a different place than someone else. You don’t need to get married by 25 (or at all). There isn’t a perfect timeline to complete every life goal. We are all different and that’s okay.
I hope you all enjoyed my weekly series for March! Make sure to like this post if you want to see more weekly series and leave a comment below telling your experiences with this topic.